What we Do…

The standard answer to the question, "What do you do?" is as follows: Nothing. We feel like we have all been so dutiful and so "busy" for so long that we deserve a break. This is recess! The Red Hat Society was founded as a haven for silliness and unfettered happiness among women of a certain age. That is all.
We don't have "rules", per se. However, we do strongly suggest the following for our members:


Rule I. Wear Your Colors
The first and foremost rule, is to ALWAYS wear your colors!

Of course, to be a Red Hatter, one should wear a red hat and a clashing purple ensemble at all events to keep up the spirit and purpose of the (dis)organization for those of us who are age 50 or older . We also suggest rather strongly that women under 50 stick to the pink hat and lavender attire until "THE BIRTHDAY". This adds an element of fun to aging, which we think is invaluable to women in our society who have learned to dread aging and avoid it at all costs. We believe that aging should be something anticipated with excitement, not something to dread.

We know that you can't always find true "purple" or "lavender"; different shades are acceptable, so are different colored pants or skirts. Attending an event WITHOUT a hat is NOT acceptable.

Exception to the Rule:
Reverse colors in your birthday month.

Every woman is special and during her birthday month she should stand out in the crowd and garner special attention. You have the option of wearing our colors or reversing them: purple hat and red outfit for those of us over 50, or lavender hat and pink outfit for those ladies under 50. The choice is up to you!


Rule II. Children, Spouses, and Significant Others

We love our families but it's OUR time, not theirs!

We do not include children, spouses, or significant others in our events. We all have the best behaved, well-mannered, beautiful children or grandchildren, but the main purpose of our Red Hat Chapter is to have time for ourselves. We joined to meet and enjoy the company of other women, to let loose, be silly, even raunchy if we want, and just enjoy our sisterhood. Husbands and significant others are old enough to look out for themselves for a few hours.

Exception to the Rule:
Hosting an event in your own home.

Children, husband, and significant others are always welcome if you are hosting an event in your own home and they are there helping you entertain.

Rule III. Guests


Guests are welcome. That being said, out of courtesy you must check with the Queen for a given event to ask if you may take a guest. One guest, once, please! A guest may only attend two events in one year, no matter who brings that guest. Remember that the guest must also, at the very least, wear red on her head.
New members must be invited by the Queen! Members may submit someone for membership, but the Queen makes the decision. Remember, this is not a democracy.


Exception to this Rule:
There is no exception to this rule.


Rule IV. RSVP Dates

"Respondez, S'il Vous Plait" means "Please Reply!"


When you receive a newsletter, phone call, or email about an upcoming event with an RSVP date, please follow these three (3) easy steps:

Check your calendar and write down the date of the event

Reply to the invitation whether you can attend or if you cannot

If the event is a pre-pay, mail your checks well in advance of the RSVP date

We're grown ladies and the hostess of the event shouldn't have to keep prodding to get an RSVP.


Exception to the Rule

There is no exception to this rule!