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From John's Desk:

AMERICAN DUMBNESS

February 6, 2005

Editor, Petoskey News-Review
P.O. Box 528
Petoskey, MI 49770

Editor:

Immediately following George W. Bush’s election for a second term, a British newspaper published a bold front-page headline that asked how over 59 million American voters could be so dumb. Although the question infuriated Bush supporters, it was considered a very valid question by a great many Europeans, as well as nearly half of American voters. This question deserves serious discussion.

Just as in all other great nations of history, America’s dumbness developed quite quickly upon achieving great power. Most everyone knows that “power corrupts”, but in a childish arrogant way, most of us vehemently deny that America could ever be corrupted by power. We are taught that Americans are the smartest, most righteous, most compassionate, & most charitable nation on the planet. But unless these views can be objectively proven, we are left only with a naive & dangerous false national pride & an extremely shaky future.

The records show America’s public education system is near-last among developed nations, our institutions of higher learning are falling behind both India & China, our deficits are at all-time highs, & our national scandals have seriously damaged our institutions of business, government, & even churches. We don’t like to discuss our failed war on drugs, our lost parenting skills, or our stinginess, because those topics would bring only painful embarrassments & social conflict.

According to the Organization for Economic Cooperation & Development (OECD), Washington contributed only 0.15% of its gross domestic product (GDP) to development assistance, putting us in last place among the 21 major western donors. While many Americans give directly to foreign aid programs, the amount is still only a small fraction of what other nations give through their governments.

How could we be so dumb as to elect George Bush to a second term? It was easy. We’ve been becoming increasingly dumb since WWII when an undamaged America had a monopoly in world markets. We became wealthy, powerful, & arrogant, replacing our sense of personal responsibilities with self-indulgences. Electing George W. Bush as president is simply one more symptom of America’s growing decadence. As studies have repeatedly shown, we elect people to office for their “likeability”, not their capability.

Sincerely,
John B. Whitmore

John wrote this letter to his local newspaper in February. John Whitmore is a WWII veteran, grandfather, retired engineer, teacher, troubleshooter, inventor, and product developer specializing in value analysis and cost reduction. His experience includes technical management in the production of ballistic missile systems, re-entry space vehicles, transportation equipment, and solar space heating systems.






RAFTING LAKE SUPERIOR


By
John B. Whitmore

The setting: Summer, 1933 on the southern shore of Lake Superior in Munising, Michigan.

BACKGROUND : Little Johnny Whitmore, age 8, had just witnessed the exciting arrival of a raft of pulp logs into Munising Bay, where they’d be converted into fine writing paper at the mill on the SE shore of the bay. Johnny, always curious, asked many questions about this exciting event, & learned that the large tugboat had towed the huge log raft 240 miles across Lake Superior from Port Arthur, Canada, & its speed was only one mile per hour. Johnny knew that one mile per hour was slow, but without much knowledge of mathematics, he did not realize that the trip had taken ten full days of steady going, day & night, good weather & bad.

THE PLAN: Johnny, always the dreamer, envisioned an exciting voyage across the big lake, & began to plan an adventure. An old road map showed Lake Superior, with Port Arthur on the opposite side from Munising, & it did not seem very far. There was a small raft made from three lightweight cedar railroad ties & weathered boards on the shore behind the sawmill, where Johnny & friends had been poling themselves along the beach for the last few summers. It seemed reasonable to Johnny that a strong south wind would blow the raft to Port Arthur… he had seen boats carried along by the wind many times, even without sails. He was now encouraged & committed!

PREPARATIONS: To push the raft away from shore where the wind would be strong, Johnny knew he’d need a much longer pole, so he “salvaged” a 16 ft. trimming from the sawmill. He also thought he would need provisions, so he snitched a can of Campbell’s pork & beans from the pantry, & what was left of a loaf of bread. He stashed these away for later pick-up on the morning of his departure. Everything was set to go; all Johnny needed now was a south wind!

SETTING SAIL: Each morning, Johnny looked out at the bay to check wind conditions. He knew that the wind usually picked-up around 10 AM when the weather was clear. Finally, there it was! A south wind & a cloudless sky! This was it! He raced outside after his oatmeal breakfast, hearing the screen door slam, & hurried to the raft with the beans & bread. In his excitement, he had overlooked the need for a can opener & spoon. Arriving at the raft, Johnny placed his provisions aboard, took off his worn Keds & placed them with his provisions. Dragging alternate corners of the raft toward the water, Johnny finally managed to wiggle the raft free of the beach! He hopped aboard & felt the warm velvety-soft texture of the deck on his feet. Grabbing the long pole, he began to turn the raft north toward Canada! Life was good!

As the raft moved into deeper water, Johnny became excited at seeing the darker waters ahead where the freshening wind was creating ripples. Soon, he would be sailing with the wind! However, there was a sudden uneasiness… the push-pole was barely reaching the bottom! Johnny had never been this far from shore before, & the deep cold waters of Superior suddenly took on an ominous frigid gloom…Lake Superior, he had heard, seldom got above 50 degrees. Away from the shore, the air was now getting cold, & waves were beginning to lap onto the once warm friendly deck. Johnny, dressed in only a T-shirt & jeans, was getting chilled & uneasy. This was not in the plan! He had pictured a warm sunny trip, but now things had become uncomfortable!

The waves were getting much higher now, the deck was wet & cold, the wind had blown the bread into the water where it sailed away, the push-pole was laying on the deck & being pushed around by the waves, knocking the bean can over & causing it to roll off the deck & into the frigid depths! He rescued his sneakers, but Johnny’s hopes were now replaced with fear! He was drifting rapidly into the North Channel without control in a brisk cold wind & mounting seas! He did not panic, but his mind raced to think of ways to improve his frightening situation.

THE RESCUE: Suddenly, there was the Coast Guard Cutter alongside the raft! Two strong arms plucked Johnny off the raft & into the cutter’s protective stern deck. There were no words spoken by either of the two Guardsmen, & Johnny offered none of his own, as the cutter sliced through the cold waves, back toward Munising’s city dock. Johnny was very worried about the raft… it had not been taken in tow, & would likely never be seen again. He realized now, that nothing remained of his adventure but his shivering, his wet sneakers & jeans! Johnny was disappointed, but glad to be headed for home. At the city dock, the Guardsman deftly lifted Johnny by his ribcage & plopped him firmly on the dock…again, without a word. Johnny didn’t even look back at the departing cutter; he was anxious to get home, get warm, & have lunch.

Johnny didn’t tell anyone of his foiled adventure until many years later… it would not feel good to admit defeat, & he didn’t want to cause a fuss at home.

THE QUESTION: At age 78, Johnny still wonders what had motivated him, nearly 70 years ago, to undertake such an adventure. Even more puzzling, what made him think he could possibly succeed?

After mulling these questions over the many years, he thinks the need for exploration & challenges is primal. Without these drives, how else could young humans (& animals) learn about their environment? Johnny bases this theory on his countless observations of the young of both animals & humans earnestly & endlessly seeking-out & examining new places & things.

However, the question of why he expected to succeed is more challenging. Even a hasty review of the map shows many barriers to success, none of which received any critical consideration by this eager but inexperienced optimist. After wondering about this riddle from time-to-time, “Old” Johnny feels there are a number of possible factors:

1. Unless one has known failure, it is difficult for young minds to perceive.

2. Children, whose needs & wants are satisfied by others, expect success.

3. To plan effectively, one needs to be fully aware of all factors & consequences.

4. Young inexperienced children are essentially unaware of consequences.

5. Without an awareness of possible consequences, anticipated fear is unlikely.

Eight-year-old Johnny had plenty of self-esteem & confidence… perhaps too much. He was in charge of all fires at home, in both the kitchen range & the chunk heater in the living room, as well as maintaining the woodshed & wood boxes when his trapper dad was away. Johnny hauled the wood & ashes, built & banked the fires, & was trusted fully with matches & all cutting tools including axes & knives. He also helped in the vegetable garden & brought his freshly caught yellow perch & brook trout home for the family larder. He felt very good about contributing to his family’s comfort & diet, & he knew his family appreciated his contributions. Perhaps all that self-esteem & confidence misled Johnny into his first big failure, which he has yet to forget! Johnny learned that failures are very important…they teach much, but only if one is thoughtful!

- END-








Kids out of Control, Parents in Denial


by
John B. Whitmore

INTRODUCTION: Following is a brief summary of my observations, analyses, and conclusions regarding youth issues and related social factors of the past 17 years. My interest in children’s issues was peaked in the mid 80’s when street gangs and irrational drive-by shootings gained wide public attention, but which seemed to defy public attempts to understand and prevent. Most readers will view this summary as politically incorrect. Indeed, many will consider it a personal attack on their work and/or values. However, my sole intent is to bring public focus to the plight of our children who are exploited by business, and largely neglected by an over-indulged society.

SYMPTOMS: Although we view youth violence, abuse of alcohol, drugs, weapons, and even food as problems, a careful analysis shows them all to be merely symptoms of deeper social ills.
Less noticeable symptoms are kids who lack conscience, empathy, respect, self-discipline, and other desirable personality traits. We have tens of thousands of kids prescribed Ritalin because they were never taught self-discipline and 30-year-old “kids” who are still dependent. Kids who are undisciplined and disinterested in learning are the major cause of 50% of new teachers leaving the profession within five years, and causing many valued older teachers to retire early.

THE DEEPER PROBLEM: A great many of today’s children lack socially acceptable values which are normally acquired during the early child/parent bonding process. This bonding instills a sense of trust in the child, along with a conscience. But many, if not most, of today’s kids were watching TV or otherwise abandoned during much of their critical bonding “window of opportunity”, and failed to acquire adequate bonding. Without an adequate bond, children often become fearful, insecure, and even enraged. The 1987 book “High Risk” by Dr. Ken Magid clearly explains the bonding process, and warns of the serious dangers and high costs to society from both children and adults who lack adequate bonding and the accompanying conscience.
A glut of parenting literature has appeared in all the media, but it fails to compete with the more seductive diversions of the marketplace. Parents are in fanatical denial of any parental laxity, and society supports this denial for fear of losing parent’s political and financial support.

FAILED FIXES: Although thousands of programs have been implemented to correct the “problems” (actually symptoms) exhibited by our errant youth, I found no notable successes except one: The Head Start program has been recently reported to return $7 in law enforcement savings for each $1 invested. Following are programs of note, but of unproven value.

¨ America’s Drug War has been raging for decades at huge cost, 80% of those polled consider the program a complete failure. Kids make or buy easily obtainable hallucinogens. Our prisons are glutted with troubled youth untrained in avoiding the lure of drugs.
¨ Gun Controls have added to the thousands of weapons laws already on the books, but arson, clubs, knives, guns, bombs, and even automobiles are still used to kill and maim.
¨ Michigan State University launched an impressive program in 1998 to build awareness of children’s developmental needs, but failed to capture a busy public’s interest.
¨ Michigan proclaims March as “Parenting Awareness Month” (PAM), when numerous groups and agencies join in a campaign to build awareness of parental responsibilities.
¨ Michigan Dept. of Community Health is using a radio blitz to warn of various risks to kids.

ROADBLOCKS: All five programs cited above have high cost/benefit ratios and are therefore of low value. There are two major reasons for the low value of these programs: First, they fail to focus directly on the very young who acquire lasting values most efficiently. Second, they fail to acknowledge and address the following social roadblocks to effective parenting:

Ø Many studies show America is in deep denial of the true causes of our troubled youth.
Ø The “Nature/Nurture debate still rages in spite of conclusive scientific evidence showing the critical importance of early nurturing which instills essential character traits.
Ø Both business and governments “cover” for parents (the new “Untouchables”) in diverting responsibility to others; they fear losing parent’s votes and trade.
Ø Kindergarten teachers are known to have the ability to identify troubled children (potential criminals) among new students, but by age five, little can be done to correct the damage.

Clearly, until we can muster the will to address and overcome these obstacles, we cannot expect to quell the current cancer-like destruction of America’s social fabric. Nor can we afford to waste more resources on failed fixes while we wring our hands, struggling to find more much-needed funds for our faltering education and health care programs.

A NEW APPROACH: The focus on parenting issues must be shifted from the present “correction mode” involving disinterested parents and errant youth, to a “prevention mode” involving infants and qualified nurturers. Funding may come from existing ineffective programs.

ü Establish public preschools for all infants ages 0 to 5, drawing on Head Start models.
ü Trained nurturers must provide emotional needs as well as physical care.
ü Curriculum must provide for optimal brain development and values acquisition.
ü Just as arithmetic is a prerequisite to algebra, preschool must precede kindergarten.

While the above approach may seem extreme, it has several important advantages:

§ Head Start programs are already proven effective and are excellent investments.
§ Recent polls have shown most parents already favor the teaching of values in school.
§ Many preschools and daycare centers are already in place, requiring only standardization.
§ Costs can be greatly reduced by offering apprentice opportunities to older students.
§ Learning efficiencies in public schools will be greatly enhanced, and at lower cost.
§ The present teacher “burnout” and turnover rates will virtually disappear.
§ As preschool graduates mature, crime costs will drop and public safety will increase.


A FINAL NOTE: We have always greatly underestimated the capacity of our newborns to learn and do. A newborn child is not simply a noisy, smelly, uncoordinated blob of protoplasm. Rather, it is the most powerful learning machine known! Half of its learning takes place the first year! By age three, its brain is consuming energy at the same rate as adults, and by age 5, its life-knowledge is nearly complete. Why, then, do we wait until age five to begin its “education”? By then, its life-values are already in place, and will determine its potential either as a contributing member of society, or as a costly life-long destructive dependent. To ignore the vast potential of any newborn is an affront to not only the child, but to God, Nature, and humankind.


John Whitmore is a WWII veteran, grandfather, retired engineer, teacher, troubleshooter, inventor, and product developer specializing in value analysis and cost reduction. His experience includes technical management in the production of ballistic missile systems, re-entry space vehicles, transportation equipment, and solar space heating systems. Since retiring in 1985, he has studied youth issues, creating an innovative program to help break the cycle of deficient parenting. To date, he has failed to find an audience for his program due to the various social factors described in this summary.





Susan's Thoughts...

Hi everyone! My name is Susan--Sue mostly. I live in Idaho, southwest Idaho, so I live in the flats--a desert. Most people think Idaho is skiing country--well, a lot of it is. But not in my part of the world.

But I am a boomer baby, I am a moderate liberal. The main point is, I was raised in the 50's. Most of my stories will deal with growing up in that era.

I am married, 25 yrs, to the Ole Cowboy, a crazy Irishman. We have a huge garden. A fish pond, lots of flowers. The Ole Cowboy will figure in many of my stories.

I am a grandma--5 grandkids and all beauties.

I read a lot and I love cats---but I have some stories about dogs.

So, enjoy our site, and support our soldiers. They need our love, and we need to get them home again. Don't forget, even though our focus is on our soldiers at this time, we continue to profile all human rights issues.






OLD BABY



Old Baby might sound like a contradiction in terms, but it's not in this case. Baby is the oldest of my three cats. Some years ago, my beloved tortoise shell cat, Rags, was hit and killed by a car while chasing a girlfriend in heat. I swore that would never happen again.

After Rags died, I wanted a new kitten. An ad in the local paper said they had gray kittens to give away. I am a sucker for gray cats, so I went to see them. They weren't exactly gray. They were shorthair gray/black tigers, the commonest of all alley cats.

But one was a little different, perhaps a bit fluffier, a touch bigger and a little cuddlier. I tossed my keys near the kittens and he was the first to run to investigate. I picked him up and cuddled him. The owner's three year old daughter watched me and proudly announced that he was her favorite (I suspect they were all her favorites). I hunkered down and explained to her that my old kitty had died and I was lonely. I needed a new kitty, this one. She clouded up, but between her mother and I, we convinced her that the kitten would be happier with me. Her mother was particularly eloquent because she was desperate to get rid of the kittens.

After I got him home, I had a heck of a time finding a name for him. It was awful. Nothing seemed to fit. For several weeks, he was Gandalf, Spock, Hey-You, whatever. One evening, when I was watching TV, he was snuggled up on my shoulder. I had to go do dishes or something and I put him on the floor and said something like "I'll be right back, Baby." And that name stuck.

During his kitten year he grew--well, all kittens do, of course. But Baby grew and grew and then he grew some more. At eight months, he weighed 20 pounds and was long haired--basically love wrapped in the extra large economy size. He wasn't fat--turns out he was a Maine Coon Cat, in fact, the classic Maine Coon, gray/black stripes that blended in the thick long fur with a white blaze that started at his nose and ran down to his belly. My cat book calls Maine Coons a "naturally occurring type."

When he was eight months old, I remembered my vow to Rag's memory and made an appointment with the vet to have him neutered. When I returned to pick him up, I gave the desk clerk my name and Baby's name and she called into the back room, "Bring Baby O'Donnell out." I paid my bill and noticed a nice lady with a very small dog sitting, waiting to be served.

We smiled vaguely, as strangers do, and chatted a bit about the weather, what was her dog's name, and so on.

An assistant came out with Baby and she laid him in my arms exactly as a nurse would pass a baby to its mother. He was quite groggy from the anesthetic and lolled his head on my left shoulder while his enormously long tail trailed way down my right side. The lady with the dog, who couldn't have weighed five pounds, rolled her eyes at me and said in sheer disbelief, "BABY?"

I don't have room here for the motor oil incident, when he lost all of his fur but for his head, tail and a strip along his spine, except to say he looked like the sorriest cat in all creation, or adding more cats to the menagerie or how he and my greyhound Phoenix got introduced.

Baby moved with it all, including a move from the city to the country. He was, in his time a fantastic mouser and a gentle and mostly patient nurturer of kittens. He did spank them when they got too rambunctious as Scruffy, my black Persian well knows.

Like most old cats, he developed kidney disease. He dwindled from a prime of 22 pounds to barely 12 pounds. He died just before Christmas, four months short of his 20th birthday. His once brilliant yellow eyes were dim and sunken.

But when he went to stand before Bast, the cat goddess, he could look her straight in the eye and say, "I was the best there was."

And he was.





The Old Man and the Rose

When the Ole Cowboy and I got married, over 25 yrs. ago, we lived in his rental house for a few months. I considered it a firetrap and started looking for a new place to rent.

I found a beautiful old house in the historic North End of Boise. It had been built in the 1920's and had been lovingly restored by the current owner. She had since been transferred to the midwest and didn't want to sell, so she rented it for $300.00 a month.

It was a beautiful two bedroom, one bath home with hardwood floors, big airy windows, a fireplace and a small but nice remodeled kitchen. It had an unfinished basement with a big coal burning furnace.

The only drawback was that the yard, on a large corner lot, had been terribly neglected. It had a large rose garden, with antique roses and, as spring progressed, we found literally hundreds of tulips and daffodils struggling through weeds and grass. Crocus bloomed in the front yard.

After settling in, we spent the spring on the yard, cleaning flower beds and pruning and feeding the neglected roses. It seemed every day brought new discoveries. Someone had dearly loved this old house, once, but it had fallen on hard times as a rental.

Our neighbors told us we were crazy to spend so much time on property that wasn't ours. We didn't care, because we loved that house, even if we didn't own it. That year, the yard bloomed, not well, because it would take time for it to recover from it's abuse, but we were proud of what we had done so far.

Then, that first year, in June, with the roses were blooming beautifully, I noticed a thin, elderly man, dressed in his Sunday best, just standing quietly on the sidewalk. I saw a very young man in a car parked by the curb, reading a magazine. The old man stood there until my curiosity got the best of me and I went out and greeted him.

He apologized for bothering me, but he explained–he and his wife had owned the house for many years. It was his wife who had planted and cherished the roses. He gravely thanked me for taking care of the roses.

His wife had died that winter and that day was their anniversary. His grandson had promised to drive him to the cemetery and the old gentleman asked him to come by my place to see how her beloved roses were.

While we talked, he never took his eyes from the roses. He seemed to want to ask me something, but he hesitated, perhaps afraid I would not agree.

Finally, he seemed to make up his mind. Shyly, he asked if he might take one rose with him to the cemetery for his wife.

His simple request moved me deeply and I said, "Of course. Take as many as you want."

"No," he said firmly, "Just one perfect rose."

Only then did he step onto the lawn that he had cared for a half century. He spent a long time looking at each bloom. He finally selected a large white rose, creamy as ivory with a tinge of faint pink at the heart, with a perfume to lift the heart.

He thanked me gravely and got into his grandson's car. They drove away. I looked for him the next June, but he never showed up.

I hope he has joined his wife and that there is a place where he can find one perfect rose to give his beloved.


Sue



Four Old Folks

My story is about four old people, two couples who happened to be in-laws. It was 1942, and WWII was on. My dad had volunteered for the Army and was sent to France as a Supply Sergeant. He was 36 and had a wife and a baby on the way.

For the duration of the war, Mom had moved in with her mom and dad, Ole and Nanny. We kids never called them anything like grandma or grandpa. They were Ole and Nanny and several generations of kids called them that. They were living in a tiny southern Idaho town called Homedale. It was very rural and terribly isolated.

Mom went into labor much too early. Eventually, she had her baby, a tiny boy, much too small to survive–he barely weighed three pounds. The country doctor said, get him to the hospital in Boise, 40 miles away or this baby will die. He implied the baby would die even with the more sophisticated medicine available in the capitol city. It was not a good idea–with their old cars and in an early wet and very cold March, the dirt roads were impassible.

The doctor shrugged his shoulders and left.

The four grandparents–it was the first grandchild for Nanny and Ole, the first grandson for Grandma Hattie and Grandfather Brown. The four resolved that this baby must live.

The baby was hastily baptized and named Clarke, after his father.

Clarke's mouth was too small to get around Mom's nipple. Nanny patiently breast pumped Mom and even more patiently, eye dropped her milk into Clarke's tiny mouth around the clock with only brief intervals for rest.

Grandfather Brown and Ole contributed their handkerchiefs for diapers. For fear of piercing the frail skin, they were taped onto the tiny body. Ole, a creative and inventive man, made an incubator out of an orange crate, soft toweling and a light bulb. Nanny swore that it would electrocute Clarke, but it didn't.

Grandma Hattie was in her 80's then, and horribly crippled with arthritis. Her hands were so ruined there was little she could do. But she had spent her long life being active and helpful. Years before Clarke was born, she taught herself how to crochet using the little use she had of her hands. However, being war time, there were no fine yarns available. She took common white cotton twine and boiled it with bleach. When it dried, she started crocheting. She made a bonnet, a gown and tiny booties. The bonnet would fit over an orange.

Grandfather Brown prayed. As he was a very stern Quaker, he addressed the Lord forthrightly and demanded that the Lord save his only grandson. I imagine Hattie, also a Quaker, also prayed--but quietly.

Ole was an atheist and just went to work on saving his only grandchild by his only child.

Nanny was a devout Catholic and kept her rosary close by.

For some reason, the baby boy that was supposed to die, didn't. I have Dad's diary from his war years, and about a week after Clarke's birth, he noted that the Red Cross had notified him of the birth and he'd sent a dozen red roses to Mom.

Slowly, he gained weight. He lived and then he thrived. Ole became his father in all but name, given Dad's absence. He remained short–he was only 5'6" at maturity. But he had a sly, dry sense of humor and had the greatest smile.

I was born in ‘47 and our sister Molly was born in 1952.

And the simple old people? They all died in their time–Grandma Hattie knew me, but I was too young to remember her, to my regret. Nanny told me this story and her admiration for Hattie was intense. Grandma Hattie died in 1949, when I was two and Clarke was seven.

Grandfather Brown and Ole died the same year, in ‘57. Grandfather was in his 90's and we kids were all there at his death bed. He was not a comfortable man to be around. Ole died in his favorite chair of a heart attack, in the same chair where he taught me how to read at age three.

Nanny passed in 1972, and Dad died not long after.

Oh, they are all gone now, those noble, simple old folks. But they saved a life, back in ‘42.

Clarke and I were best friends–and I miss him terribly, because he died three years ago on Christmas Eve.

We found, in his keepsake box he'd had from when he was a boy, a tiny crocheted bonnet, gown and booties.
Sue




Denise's Thoughts...

My name is Denise, and I am many things. I consider myself to be a moderate, and an Independent. I'm the (frustrated) mother of a female soldier who spent a year in Baghdad (I've moved more to the left because of it); I'm the wife (pushing 30 years) to a lovable man from outer space (you read it right!). He has 12 years of active duty in the Army, and 11 years of Army National Guard Reserves.

I'm the mother of a rising rapper in Atlanta (yaay for Ness Lee!), and I'm a songwriter and gospel singer. I'm the daughter of two educators, and sibling to five very unique people. Well, six siblings if I count my oldest niece (a gorgeous and wonderful individual) who likes to think she's my sister instead of my niece.

I'm a 48-year-old who loves people and animals; and has a very warped sense of humor. I'm a Jill of most trades because we travelled so often with the military, moving every 12 to 18 months.

I will never insult you intentionally or use profanity against you (and I am sick of it being directed toward me simply because I oppose the Iraq war). My purpose here is to call attention to those who are being ignored. I love to sing, write music, write stories, and bug politicians who don't give a hoot about us until they need our vote. My love to all!







THANK YOU GEORGE…



I am a Moderate who has been misled by those no-good Liberals. I now see that everything you have done is for the good of the people that you love so much.

Before you took office, my husband had a job that paid very well. Now he has taken a job at less than three-fourths his original pay. His Reserve weekends are now not just something he wants to do, it’s something he needs to do. Thank you for showing us we didn’t need all that food on the table after all. Now we don’t really need a table. I think we’ll sell it at a yard sale.

Before you took office, our son was secure in the fact that his parents had enough income to send him to college if he worked part time.

Thank you for forcing him to get a backbreaking full-time job that pays next to nothing and is a one-hour drive across town. He enjoys the scenic freeway view. He especially loves spending so much of his income on gas. He’s so busy driving slowly through traffic jams that he wouldn’t have time for school anyway.

Before you took office, our daughter was a proud soldier in the US Army. We as her parents were secure in the knowledge that should she ever have to go to war it would be under orders of her Commander-in-Chief and it would be to protect the people of the United States.

Thank you for giving her the opportunity to fight for the profit of big businesses and for the control of Iraq’s oil. She made a lot of friends in her carefree year in beautiful, breathtaking Baghdad. The fact that she will never see some of them again builds her character.

Before you took office, we knew that if our daughter ever became medically unfit to serve, she would have been medically discharged from the Army instead of being sent into a war zone. Yes, her superiors felt forced to deny medical treatment to her for the entire year that she was in Baghdad while her condition worsened, but she was getting paid.

Thank you for allowing her to keep her job after she re-developed a 40-degree curve and pain in her spine that she had as a child.

Before you took office, I remember a time when your friend Zell would step in and help a soldier who was in need as our daughter was. He would have recognized that someone in her condition could hinder the mission and possibly put other soldier’s lives in danger.

Thank you for showing us that despite all my begging and pleading, we can’t count on Zell for compassion anymore. I can tell my friends not to waste their time. You made us realize how much we miss that other deceitful war veteran, Max Cleland (John McCain and John Kerry are the first two as you know very well). Max did spoil us when he responded to our letters.

Before you took office, we had health insurance. Since I have health problems, I visited my doctor regularly. We still have health insurance. It costs us more than $300 a month now, but we have it! I just can’t go to the doctor as often since the premiums are so high.

Thank you for teaching us how to live on the edge.

Before you took office, I was so superficially happy. I had a job that paid very well, now I have been unemployed for nearly two years.

Thank you for giving me all the time off I need so I can write you this THANK YOU letter. No one deserves it more than you, George.

Denise Thomas
Military Families Speak Out
Georgia Peace and Justice Coalition











POOR BLACKS CAN'T SPEAK ENGLISH??



ON COSBY'S COMMENTS...

I'm a poor black (in income only), and I take issue with what Mr. Cosby said. I speak and write very clearly, even though I didn't have the money to finish my last year of college. I have suffered discrimination many times, and it clearly was discrimination because I have sent White friends into workplaces; they could get an application when I couldn't. My husband has been out of the military and in the Reserves for eleven years (he has 23 years total), but I could not get a job as a real estate agent in his hometown! I later found out that there were no Black real estate agents there. Our income has fallen to less than $13,000 at times. Military relocation, and moves to find jobs afterward makes it difficult when employers look at my resume.

My dad was beaten, when he was 14 years old, and left for dead by the KKK. He had that pesky habit of looking White people in the eye. He was much older than my mom, so this would have taken place close to the year 1920. He spent most of his life as a poor Black, but he finished college late in life, obtained several master’s degrees, and went on to teach agriculture and build schools in Africa and in the Middle East. He then came back to the US, married and had a family. I was born in 1956 while my Dad was enrolled in Tuskegee University, and pursuing yet another degree. Some would say that, given his experience, he had a right to teach his children that White people are hateful. He taught me that negative, blanket statements about any group of people are dangerous; and that White people who would harm a Black child are a pitiful few.


My Dad, in his late 40's.
Everyone called him R.T.,
or "Fess" for Professor


Cosby wasn't talking about me, and of that I am quite certain. I'm sure that if I could confront him personally, he would confirm it as fact. I would ask him why, then, did he make a negative, blanket statement about poor Blacks, because I certainly am one. I’d ask why would he make such a statement about his own race. There are millions like me who have low income who will never give up until we succeed; and success does not just mean having money. Negative generalities promote prejudices and bigotry.

What Mr. Cosby said only serves to validate what many White people think about "lazy" Black people. Comments like these put down low-income Black people, and many Whites and well-to-do Blacks buy into it. His comments took me back to a very painful time in my life. I was 12 years old, and my ninth grade geography teacher had the same speech ready for his class every day when we came in from gym class. "Instead of progressing, we're retrogressing", he said. "Black people don't pull together, we pull apart. If you take any White child and pit him academically against any Black child, the White child will win every time". I made "A's" in every class except his. Soon all my grades began to suffer.



For a recap of Cosby's comments, go to the "In the News" page, on this site.



My mother taught me to read when I was three. That got me into first grade at age four. I was reading on the tenth grade level at age six. My parents taught me that I was as smart as (or smarter than) anybody, and as good as anybody. My mother brought me books (several of them about Black achievement) from the library every week, and I ate them up. I loved to read about how Black people overcame adversity with brain power. Now here was a trusted teacher telling me that Black people haven't gone anywhere. If I could have gotten away with cutting his class, I would have, but Mama was a teacher there.


My Mom, in
her thirties. "Bea"

I don’t like statements like "poor White trash" or "cops are pigs" or "Jews are stingy" or "the French are cowards" or the favorite of the moment, "Muslims are terrorists". There are a few people in these groups who are all of those things. Yes, then there are SEVERAL insulting stereotypes about those "stupid Black people". I'm a poor Black who sees other poor Blacks trying to make it. We won't give up. Why is it that America cannot exist without putting some group or another down?? For some reason when there's money involved, people tend to look much better. I've never heard of "rich White trash". Do you think that if "poor Blacks" had money, any behavioral problems would look much more attractive?

My son has been stopped 150+ times by the police in the nearly 4 years that we have been in metro Atlanta. He's large, young, and Black, he's a rapper (and dresses like one), he drives a red sports car (old and falling apart), and he goes to most of his shows late at night. I have no doubt that many of the police who have stopped him have done so for superficial reasons. They are victims of stereotyping and negative generalities that have been drummed into their heads all of their lives. I tell my son to let them do their jobs. If my son refuses to cooperate, he could be shot and killed by a frightened officer. He'd go down in police statistics as another violent rapper, and the police officer would be known to the Black community as another "murdering pig". That would impact on the next police officer and the next Black rapper who crossed paths. It's a vicious circle that causes mistrust on both sides, and it starts with those seemingly innocent blanket statements.


My son,"Ness Lee".
He never knew his grandfather.

In reality, my son is a genius who writes great music with no training. Most people my age love his music. He worships women (usually from afar because he has had his heart terribly broken), he attends church service regularly, loves animals and little kids. In my mind, blanket statements can waste a beautiful soul like my son. Some police officers have gotten used to seeing him, and he says he thinks they even look out for him. He still mistrusts some police, but we'll work on that.

Some people tell me that I should trust what Cosby says because he has a Ph.D. My Dad has said to me that he got his education from going to school, but he became educated and smart by living and observing.

My dad could have used blanket statements to make me hate White people, because he was almost killed by the KKK. He always let us know that it was a hateful few. My dad didn't do it to me, I won't do it to my children, and even though I respect what he stands for, I don't like it when Cosby does it to poor Black people.

Denise Thomas

My Dad in the
Middle East, about 1949







Comments on Cosby (from Blogsites and forums):

...You will notice that he is only allowed to make these comments because he is black.
If a white person had said this ... well that wouldn't have been "Free Speech" but "Hate Speech."
Not an opinion on his comments, but an opinion on the reaction to them.
Dave: May 24, 2004






Jul
posted by: sandman
Bill was right in what he said and how he said it. Finally someone has the guts to say it like it is!! We as a people need to stop blaming 'the man' of all that's wrong. I'm not saying that a lot of the problems didn't start with 'the man', but we need to know that we have to 3x-4x as hard to make it in the world. And remember that not one if us will start at the top, but we all need to start.
Thank you, Bill Cosby






Jul
posted by: jilezy2004
If I'm not mistaken, Cosby works such as Fat Albert and Uptown Saturday Night utilized fluent ebonics and slang. Bill didn't seem to have any problem understanding "THESE People" when he was lining his pockets with characters like Mushmouth!!!. Truth is, most of us speak "The King's English" quite well, but WOULD RATHER NOT. Black men are beating their women because they can't find jobs??!? This man is... making generalizations like that!!

...These black folks that amass all of this wealth and are designated as "black leaders" are pathetic. Who designates these clowns to try and lead someone, the government. They can barely raise their own children to be anything other than junkies, but they feel they have the right to tell other people how to live. BLACK PEOPLE,don't follow any man, because they are weak just as Bill, Jesse, and Al have all proven. Stop measuring people's merit by how many useless degrees they have, and how much wealth they've plundered. Black people need to quit looking to wealthy blacks as if they are leaders or prophets just because they've amassed a fortune. Who the heck is Bill Cosby? Just because he's on TV, he speaks for black America? Get serious!! He needs to come back down to earth, get from in front of the camera, and get his a** in the ghettos, on the front lines to put in some real work.






Jul
posted by: 4mypepl
I first must say that I concur with Dr. Cosby, particularly as a former English Teacher and one who has been ostracized by my own black American brothers and sisters for being "too black" and at other times "an oreo."...






Jul
posted by: dizturbdwun
...For someone who believes so strongly in education, The Coz gave a very unresearched account of what is going on in the poor black community. Not only were his statistics made up and way off, but he is totally wrong about what is going on in our neighborhoods. He didn't bother to mention the effects of the slaughter and enslavement of our mothers and fathers in prison. He talked about the murder of someone who stole a piece of cake, but what about all the (Whites) who plant drugs on people. Don't be naive; almost everyone in the poor neighborhoods (at least i know in new orleans) knows at least 2 people who... had drugs planted on them)...






Jul
posted by: penguin4ever
I am very disappointed in what Cosby is doing (or rather the way he is saying it). He is saying it with such...venom and hostility. When he's talking about "dirty laundry" he needs to first talk about his affair and how he had a "secret" daughter for so many years. I do believe he is proclaiming to be self-righteous and better than most blacks. But this is how the elite of our race do act...

...Secondly, he degraded people with their names. If someone has an afrocentric name like Jabari or Malik, then that is bad? Why is it ok for other cultures to embrace their roots, but we cannot?

...I have too much that I would like to say, but my time is limited. Bill Cosby is not an influence on me. Just because he says something, everything isn't going to be suddenly changed. There are plenty of blacks who are doing things - he is not the only one.






...Just when I was about to repent from my worst un-PC ways, I come across some very fiery remarks from one Mr. Bill Cosby, who took the opportunity on the anniversary of Brown v. Board of Education to say some things he felt he needed to say.






Regardless of whether you agree with the Coz, you've got to admit that it's a great country we live in that he can speak his mind.
Posted by Jack: May 24, 2004






Jul
posted by: droppinscience
...For you folks who agree with Cosby you are engaged in nothing more than self hate. Can blacks do better? Of course. Do some of our teens behave badly? Yes. But, no more then any other reacial demographic.

People, wake... up! Read the research! People respond to their genes, peer groups, and the evolutionary pressures of the environment. We live in an increasingly complex society where there are no easy answers. To reduce 400years of slavery and subjugation to "those people need to speak proper english" is an insult and the ultimate in blaming the victim...






Jul
posted by: Noblebutterfly
It could only help with the reality that personal failures are not always someone else's fault. Far to long some Black men and women seem to blame their personal failures on "the White Man," no longer does the "White man" stand in front of any school or college nor does he stand in front of any business barring a person from obtaining a job. I know that racism still lives but its truly not an excuse for personal failures. No one else can live your life but you, so you are accountable for the actions and nonactions in your life.

I totally agree with Bill Cosby's comments and more need to voice the same comments no matter how it hurts. Some Black's are offended by his comments because they know its true and they know they are the ones he is speaking of. As my grandfather use to say "A hit dog will holler."





I still beg to differ in regard to your response that the AA (African American) culture has taken a turn for the worse. You said: Now, black children everywhere are afraid to be smart, speak proper English and be successful in anything other than music or sports because the notion is that you lose your blackness and somehow turn white. That to me is a bad turn and I am sorry if you don't want to hear it but that is the truth.

To prove my point I did brief amount of research on census.gov. I graduated from college in 1980 so it is fitting that the information gathered goes back to 1980. Here is what I found:

In% of blacks had at least a High School diploma compared with 71% of whites.

In% of blacks had at least a High School Diploma compared with 81% of whites. Here you can see that blacks improved at a higher rate than white people in attaining at least a high school diploma from 1980 to 1992 (17% for Blacks and 10% for whites)

In 1980 8% of Blacks had at least a Bachelors Degree compared to 18% of whites.

In% of Blacks had at least a Bachelors Degree compared to 22% of whites. Here you see that Blacks improved at the same rate as white people (both at 4%).

In 2002 (the last year I could find data) 79% of Blacks hat at least a High School Diploma. Compared to 89% of whites. Here again, Blacks improved at a higher percentage than Whites in the ten-year spectrum (11% for Blacks and 9% for whites). This shows that in 22 years Blacks have improved 28% compared to 18% in attaining at least a High School Diploma.

In% of Blacks held at least a Bachelor Degree, while 29% of whites held the same. While Blacks have not improved in the ten years at a higher rate than whites, they have steadily improved (5% in ten years). Also in% of Blacks had some college and/or an Associate Degree only 2% less than whites at 29%.

So in all, what I am saying is your statement regarding Blacks and their lack of achievement in education in the 21st century as compared to when I graduated from college, do not align with the facts. Blacks are achieving at almost the same level as (Whites), the problem is we did not start the race at the same vantage point. Could we do better, without a doubt, we must, but a lot of that is attributed to the lack of funds by parents for post secondary education for their children. So would you please relay this information to your African friends who perceive that AA are perpetual under-achievers...

Peace and blessings to you.
Posted by: Deborah August 2, 2004




 
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