|Sexaholics Anonymous - Asheville, NC|
|Recover from compulsive patterns of lust, romance, |
destructive relationships, sexual thoughts or behavior. We are men and women who have suffered from sexual addiction and obsession with lust. We came to this fellowship where we learned that we no longer have to live that way. We joined Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). We worked the Twelve Steps with a sponsor. What we found here was a better life, the gift of peace, freedom, happiness and serenity. (Step Into Action 1, 2, 3 page 9)
The SA Purpose
Sexaholics Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength, and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover. The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop lusting and become sexually sober. There are no dues or fees for SA membership; we are self-supporting through our own contributions. SA is not allied with any sect, denomination, politics, organization, or institution; does not wish to engage in any controversy; neither endorses nor opposes any causes. Our primary purpose is to stay sexually sober and help others to achieve sexual sobriety.
Many of us felt inadequate, unworthy, alone, and afraid. Our insides never matched what we saw on the outsides of others.
Early on, we came to feel disconnected -- from parents, from peers, from ourselves. We tuned out with fantasy and masturbation. We plugged in by drinking in the pictures, the images, and pursuing the objects of our fantasies. We lusted and wanted to be lusted after.
We became true addicts: sex with self, promiscuity, adultery, dependency relationships, and more fantasy. We got it through the eyes; we bought it, we sold it, we traded it, we gave it away. We were addicted to the intrigue, the tease, the forbidden. The only way we knew to be free of it was to do it. "Please connect with me and make me whole!" we cried with outstretched arms. Lusting after the Big Fix, we gave away our power to others.
This produced guilt, self-hatred, remorse, emptiness, and pain, and we were driven ever inward, away from reality, away from love, lost inside ourselves.
Our habit made true intimacy impossible. We could never know real union with another because we were addicted to the unreal. We went for the "chemistry," the connection that had the magic, because it by-passed intimacy and true union. Fantasy corrupted the real; lust killed love.
First addicts, then love cripples, we took from others to fill up what was lacking in ourselves. Conning ourselves time and again that the next one would save us, we were really losing our lives.
We saw that our problem was three-fold: physical, emotional, and spiritual. Healing had to come about in all three.
The crucial change in attitude began when we admitted we were powerless, that our habit had us whipped. We came to meetings and withdrew from our habit. For some, this meant no sex with themselves or others, including not getting into relationships. For others it meant “drying out” and not having sex with the spouse for a time to recover from lust.
We discovered that we could stop, that not feeding the hunger didn't kill us, that sex was indeed optional! There was hope for freedom, and we began to feel alive. Encouraged to continue, we turned more and more away from our isolating obsession with sex and self and turned to God and others.
All this was scary. We couldn't see the path ahead, except that others had gone that way before. Each new step of surrender felt it would be off the edge into oblivion, but we took it. And instead of killing us, surrender was killing the obsession! We had stepped into the light, into a whole new way of life.
The fellowship gave us monitoring and support to keep us from being overwhelmed, a safe haven where we could finally face ourselves. Instead of covering our feelings with compulsive sex, we began exposing the roots of our spiritual emptiness and hunger. And the healing began.
As we faced our defects, we became willing to change; surrendering them broke the power they had over us. We began to be more comfortable with ourselves and others for the first time without our “drug.”
Forgiving all who had injured us, and without injuring others, we tried to right our own wrongs. At each amends more of the dreadful load of guilt dropped from our shoulders, until we could lift our heads, look the world in the eye, and stand free.
We began practicing a positive sobriety, taking the actions of love to improve our relations with others. We were learning how to give; and the measure we gave was the measure we got back. We were finding what none of the substitutes had ever supplied. We were making the real Connection. We were home.
Contact Asheville SA
You can send email to us at firstname.lastname@example.org
| Asheville Area Meetings|
These are closed meetings. This means that only those desiring their own sexual sobriety are welcome to attend.
Monday 7:30 pm
Downtown Asheville on Oak Street near College Street
Tuesday 7:30 pm
Intersection of I-40 and Highway 25 (Hendersonville Rd.)
Wednesday 7:30 pm
On Highway 25(Hendersonville Rd) in Fletcher across from the Ingles
Thursday 7:30 pm
Just off North Merrimon Ave. behind McDonald’s
Saturday 8:30 am
Directions from Asheville Area
Sunday 9:30 am
Sunday 7:00 pm
From Asheville area, Take Interstate 40 to Exit 27 where you bear right toward Waynesville on US 23/74( Smokey Mountain Xpwy). This 4 lane road will take you to exit 102 (US276- Russ Avenue) where you exit off to your right. At the foot of this exit turn right and proceed south down the hill on Russ Avenue. In approximately 1 mile (at the 5th stoplight, turn right on South Haywood and proceed through 2 stoplights. As you pass the FUMC sanctuary (566 South Haywood St.) turn immediately right ( the third stoplight is overhead...) onto Academy St.. Go down the hill about 75 yards. Friendship House is a two story brick house with a big front porch with white columns on your right. Park on the street or in the parking lot across Academy or the parking lot to your right just beyond Friendship House.
|SEXAHOLICS ANONYMOUS - ASHEVILLE, NC|
phone: 828 681 9250