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Male Violence is a Man’s Issue
Toledo NOW would like to thank nationally recognized educator Jackson Katz for his events at the University of Toledo in October during which he discussed what we already know to be true: domestic violence is a man’s issue because men are guilty of over 95% of domestic violence crimes perpetuated in our society.
Why do we not talk about men and their responsibility in the beatings and brutal murders of their partners? Instead society has labeled the beatings as a “woman’s issue” and the woman is now a “battered” woman, accepting the fact that the woman has mysteriously become responsible for the brutal beatings, possibly even for her own murder.
We have heard these questions being asked in numerous situations: “What did she do to make him hit her?” or “Why didn’t she just leave?” This neglects to recognize that no one can “make” someone else hit them, no one has the right to hit anyone else and suggests the woman somehow deserved or could have prevented the attacks, blaming the abused instead of the abuser. Further, many women who do try to escape abusive relationships endure more violence, and have an increased risk of being murdered by her partner when she is in the process of leaving the relationship. No one but the abuser can stop the behavior and until that is realized, the violence will continue.
The City of Toledo has endured one domestic violence murder each month for the past ten months. The Toledo Metropolitan area has a domestic violence murder rate more than twice the national average, based upon prevalent national studies and census statistics. Several recent domestic violence murder cases have involved perpetrators who were previously convicted of “misdemeanor” domestic violence charges or protection orders had been denied to the woman later murdered. While the feminist women of Toledo have fought long and hard to combat the violence, it is past time Toledo sees some male leadership addressing the man’s issue of male violence.
Fundraising and Advertising Update
Calvino’s Italian Restaurant, 3143 W. Central, Toledo, hosted a Proceeds Day for Toledo NOW on October 10, 2006, raising nearly enough to cover the first publication and mailing of the Toledo N.O.W. & Again newsletter. A special thanks to Fred Calvino for his generosity to Toledo area feminists and activism.
Opportunities exist for other women-friendly businesses to share the enthusiasm for activism and help the Toledo N.O.W. & Again become a regular staple of Toledo independent media. While the first issue is advertising-free, future editions may include business card sized advertisements for locally owned and operated women-owned and women-friendly businesses to defer printing costs. Each newsletter will be mailed to approximately 85 dues-paying Toledo N.O.W. members, over 100 copies are distributed in local gathering spots, and email and internet versions have limitless possibilities for distribution to area women and feminists.
In keeping with the 76 cents to each dollar that women currently earn compared to men, advertisements for women-owned businesses will cost only $7.60 per issue and $10 per issue for male-owned, women-friendly businesses.
Take Back the Night Planning Underway
The Toledo Take Back the Night (TBTN) Collective has begun organizing for the April 2007 event. International events, which most believe were begun by local, grassroots feminist organizations in the early to mid 1970’s to protest and help eradicate violence against women, the Toledo Area’s TBTN began thirteen years ago and is held annually.
The structure of our local event typically consists of a one hour community rally where all are welcome, followed by a women’s march through the streets and culminating in a women’s Survivor SpeakOut. While women are marching and attending the SpeakOut, our male allies are meeting in a two-hour workshop where they educate themselves on gender violence issues and plan ways that they too can help eradicate violence against women. The Clothesline Project and The Silent Witness Program are also on display as a visual reminder of those affected by violence against women. If you are a woman who would like to become involved in the Take Back the Night Planning Collective, please attend the next organizing meeting on Tuesday, November 14, 2006, 6:00pm at People Called Women, 3153 W. Central Ave., Toledo. If you are a man interested in becoming involved in the men’s program, please email firstname.lastname@example.org.
Toledo’s Take Back the Night event is held annually to:
Critical Analysis of Toledo’s Flying Red Bra Scandal
Though, at first, it was beyond my wildest imagination why the Flying Red Bra Scandal was receiving so much press, I’ve come to realize this horror story of stray cotton is an elaborate scheme to cover up and justify the real situation in Toledo.
From all this media of Toledo’s Worst Scandal Ever, I have been able to deduce the following information:
1. Two middle-aged white men, who fit the descriptions of men who have been attacking and murdering school girls across the nation, were sexually harassing a group of young women who were simply trying to use a public roadway.
2. After continued harassment by these men, one of the young women allegedly made a decision that, while not entirely ecologically friendly, should result in no more than a littering ticket. This decision was most likely made as a last ‘ditch’ effort to appease the harassers so they might be able to travel in peace.
3. The harassers were so concentrated on the harassment of the underage women, rather than the safe operation of their vehicle, the driver lost control causing injury to both harassers.
These harassers are now crying for media attention, blaming their injuries on supposed “Girls Gone Wild”, demanding charges be filed against their harassment victims and actually filing civil suits for compensation. The local media is playing on this victim-blame in a number of ways: focusing on the case from the viewpoint that the men couldn’t resist their behaviors, but the young women should have been able to control not only themselves but also their harassers, not relating the harassment to a large number of murders against women not only nationwide but locally as well, repeatedly mentioning the color of the bra as if someone wearing a colored bra simply must be a “Girl Gone Wild”.
Are we to believe that a stray piece of cloth was so threatening to these men that it caused them to lose control of their vehicle? If they think flying bras are that scary, they should try having to wear one everyday.
While it is not considered news or politically worthy of any action, women and girls in this city are being attacked, often murdered, usually by someone they know but sometimes by strangers. Yet the media is choosing to concentrate on the Flying Red Bra Scandal and the already over full courts will now be burdened with more victim-blame nonsense.
Toledo’s media and politicians need to quit boasting with false pride while women are being attacked, murdered and objectified right in front of their faces. If Toledo men really can’t control their actions, the least they can do is learn to control their vehicles.
Schedule of Events
--November 5, 2006, 2:00pm: Raise the Wage Rally at 1st Unitarian Church (Collingwood & Bancroft), Sponsored by Jobs with Justice. For more information, contact Karen Krause at email@example.com
--November 7, 2006, 6:30am-7:30pm: ELECTION DAY! Don’t throw away the right our sisters worked so hard to earn for us! Visit www.co.lucas.oh.us/BOE to check your registration status, find your polling place, and check out the ballot issues. Remember to take ID to the polls this year.
--November 11, 2006, 2:00-3:30pm: Armistice Day Film Screenings - two short films followed by discussion related to women, military and war at the Kent Branch Library Auditorium, 3101 Collingwood, Toledo. Free refreshments. Parking accessible off Central Ave. Co-sponsored by Toledo N.O.W. and Student and Family Privacy Rights Committee. Flyer available at www.ToledoNOW.org
--November 14, 2006, 6:00pm: Take Back the Night Collective Meeting at People Called Women Bookstore, 3153 W. Central, Toledo. Help plan the 2007 TBTN event, as well as interim anti-violence projects.
--November 15, 2006, 7:00pm: Toledo NOW Meeting at People Called Women Bookstore, 3153 W. Central, Toledo. New members always welcome and encouraged to attend.
--November 24, 2006, 7:00-10:00pm, Anne E. Dechant performing at Downtown Latte, 44 South St. Clair St., Toledo. 10% of food and beverage purchases will be donated to Equality Toledo’s Safe Schools Program.
--December 2, 2006: People Called Women 13th Anniversary Party! Potluck dinner at 7:00pm (please bring a dish to share and your own drink) and live benefit auction at 8:00pm. Wish to donate an item for the auction? Contact Carolyn at 419.262.5477 or drop items by the store.
--December 6, 2006, Noon-1:00pm: “You May Do That:” Commemorating the Arrest of Rosa Parks, Brown Bag Luncheon at Bowling Green State University Women’s Center, 107 Hanna Hall
--December 20, 2006, 7:00pm: Toledo NOW Meeting at People Called Women Bookstore, 3153 W. Central, Toledo. New members always welcome and encouraged to attend.
--January 2, 2007: Expected release date of the next Toledo N.O.W. & Again.
Not a Feminist? ‘Why NOT?’
“Feminism has fought no wars. It has killed no opponents. It has set up no concentration camps, starved no enemies, practiced no cruelties. Its battles have been for education, for the vote, for better working conditions...for safety on the streets...for childcare, for social welfare...for rape crisis centers, women's refuges, reforms in the laws. If someone says 'Oh, I'm not a feminist,' I ask 'Why not?”
It’s easy to become a card carrying member of Toledo’s primary feminist organization, National Organization for Women - Toledo Area Chapter. Membership forms are available at www.ToledoNOW.org. If you are already a member of National NOW, local dues are included with your membership. Please make sure OH0520 is your chapter designation on the card sent to you by National.
More importantly, it’s easy to become an active, engaged member of Toledo N.O.W. Meetings are held the third Wednesday of each month, 7:30pm, at People Called Women Bookstore (Ohio’s only feminist bookstore), 3153 W. Central Ave., Toledo, OH, 43606.
As the above articles illustrate, the war against women is raging in Toledo. There is always a need for volunteers, organizers, and ideas. Many local feminist events are listed in the enclosed Schedule of Events - make sure to mark your calendar! If you have a feminist news, views or calendar events for the next Toledo N.O.W. & Again, please email submissions to News@ToledoNOW.org or use the contact form on our website.
Other ways to help your local feminists include:
Tell your friends to sign-up to receive Toledo N.O.W. & Again via email. Just use the contact form at the bottom of the ToledoNOW.org homepage—check the box to be added to the email list.
Donate paper, stamps or copy service for the next edition of the N.O.W. & Again, printed copies are mailed to all dues paying members.
Speak up, loud and clear, when you see gender discrimination and/or violence occurring in homes, the public and media.
Past events of Toledo NOW have included:
2/12/05 2:00 PM: "Sacred Choices" Film Presentation, Sanger Branch Library
2/14/05 Noon - 2:00 PM: Demonstration for Marriage Equality, Lucas County Probate Court, Michigan Street Entrance, click for coverage by local media .
2/26 & 2/27/05 7:30 PM: The Vagina Monologues by Eve Ensler, University of Toledo Scott Park Auditorium, Doors open at 7pm. Proceeds of the production benefited the UT Sexual Assault Education and Prevention Program. For more information on the V-Day campaign, please visit VDay.org.
3/16/05 7:00 PM: Toledo NOW General Meeting, PCW Bookstore, Cricket West - Professor Jamie Barlowe, Department of Women's & Gender Studies, University of Toledo, presents "Lies We Were Told About Women's History" - afterwards was the Toledo NOW Proceeds Day at Calvino's!
3/16/05 11:00 AM - 10:00 PM: 'Toledo NOW Proceeds Day' at Calvino's Restaurant, Cricket West. 20% of all proceeds will benefited Toledo NOW! Eat-in and carry-out. Alcohol not included. Calvino's is located in the Cricket West Shopping Center, 3143 W Central Ave., Open 11am-10pm
3/19/05 8:00 AM: Women's History Month Parade
3/23/05 7:00 PM: Feminist Book Club Meeting, "Feminism is for Everybody: Passionate Politics" by Bell Hooks.
4/8/05 7:00 PM: Take Back the Night, East Toledo Family Center, 1020 Varland (between E. Broadway and Woodville Road). Women unite - take back the night! Join the rally to end violence against women! Women's March, Survivor Speak-out, and Men's Program. The Clothesline Project begins at 6:00 PM.
4/20/05 - Equal Pay Day - 7:00 PM: Toledo NOW General Meeting, PCW Bookstore, Cricket West
4/27/05 7:00 PM: Feminist Book Club Meeting, "The Bluest Eye" by Toni Morrison.
5/7/05 11:00 AM - 1:00 PM: Toledo NOW Protest of Wal-Mart, on sidewalk in front of Wal-Mart on Glendale, between Detroit and Byrne - more than 60 concerned citizens advocated against Wal-mart's discriminatory work practices, health care unaffordibility, pharmacy policy of not stocking Emergency Contraception and allowing pharmacists to refuse to fill medical prescriptions for women.
5/11/05 7:00 PM: Feminist Book Club Meeting
5/15/05 1:00 PM - 4:00 PM: 3rd Annual March for Moms, at Wildwood Park in the Pavilion. Family event complete with stroll in the park, picnic, gifts and prizes. Sponsored by Single Parent Resource, carrying out its mission of preventing childhood poverty by providing incentive scholarships to low income single parents wishing to attend college.
5/18/05 7:00 PM: Toledo NOW General Meeting, PCW Bookstore, Cricket West
5/21/05 2:00 PM: "Seperate is Never Equal" Public Discussion regarding equal rights for LGBT community, at Downtown Latte, 44 S. St. Clair, Toledo.
6/8/05 7:00 PM: Feminist Book Club Meeting
6/15/05 7:00 PM: Toledo NOW General Meeting, PCW Bookstore, Cricket West
7/1/05 National NOW Conference, Nashville, TN
7/13/05 7:00 PM: Feminist Book Club Meeting
7/16/05 10:00 AM - NOON: Pro-Choice Action Day, NARAL Pro-Choice Ohio, Toledo Choice Action Team, along with Toledo NOW, and the ISO Toledo Branch will be having a petition-signature-gathering Action Day at the Toledo Farmer's Market on July 16, 2005 from 10am - Noon. A lunch break will be followed with the ISO sponsored movie screening of "We Interrupt This Empire" - details and contact information also posted on this calendar.
7/16/05 2:00 PM: "We Interrupt This Empire" Movie Screening, sponsored by International Socialist Organization's Toledo Branch, at the Sanger branch library, 2:00 PM, July 16, 2005. The San Francisco Video Activist Network presents the story you won't see on Fox News: an unflinching look at the Bay Area's radical resistance to an illegal and horrific war.
7/20/05 7:00 PM: Toledo NOW General Meeting, PCW Bookstore, Cricket West
8/17/05 5:30 PM: Feminist Book Club Meeting
8/17/05 7:30 PM: Candlelight Vigil March - Support for Cindy Sheehan, Toledo NOW, in support of Cindy Sheehan and other mothers who have lost or do not wish to lose any more sons or daughters, are hosting a silent candlelight vigil to encourage the President to show respect to the mothers of fallen soldiers by talking to Cindy. What better place to kick off the vigil than a place created for and dedicated to the respect of women...Ohio's only feminist bookstore, People Called Women in Cricket West. Candles, including 'flameless' candles (glowsticks) for children, and a few respectful signs will be provided, but bring them if you've got them. The candlelighting and short kick-off will begin promptly at 7:30 PM, so please arrive a few minutes early so you have time to find a parking spot and get a candle and sign. Unlimited number of attendees, as this will be a public, outdoors event. APPROXIMATELY 200 TOLEDO AREA RESIDENTS STOOD IN VIGIL AT THIS EVENT
9/15/05 7:00 PM: Feminist Book Club Meeting
9/21/05 7:00 PM: Toledo NOW General Meeting, PCW Bookstore, Cricket West
9/24/05 National Mobilization Against the Iraq War, Washington, D.C. Get on the bus! Toledo NOW is co-sponsor, along with ISO Toledo and NWOPC, for the bus trip to what is expected to be one of the largest protests against war in our recent history. Bus leaves Friday, September 23, 2005 at approximately 9:00 PM. We will arrive in D.C. the morning of Saturday, September 24, 2005 to protest all day and return home early Sunday morning. First bus is FULL, get your tickets for the second bus before it's too late! $50/ticket round-trip. For more information and/or ticket purchase, call 419-340-4902 or 419-494-9306 or 419-471-1409 or email firstname.lastname@example.org to get on the peace bus! APPROXIMATELY 100 TOLEDO AREA RESIDENTS FILLED TWO BUSES TO WASHINGTON, D.C. - SEE SOME PICTURES BY CLICKING HERE.
10/12/05 7:00 PM: Feminist Book Club Meeting
10/17/05 5:30 - 7:30 PM: Town Hall Meeting on Domestic Violence, McMaster Hall in the Toledo Main Library, 325 N. Michigan. OVER TWO HUNDRED TOLEDO AREA RESIDENTS, AGENCIES, ACTIVISTS AND A FEW POLITICIANS ATTENDED TO OPEN THE DISCUSSION REGARDING THE TOP REPORTED CRIME IN TOLEDO, DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.
10/19/05 7:00 PM: Toledo NOW General Meeting, PCW Bookstore, Cricket West, 3153 W. Central Avenue Toledo, OH 43606
11/16/05 5:30 PM: Feminist Book Club Meeting, "Wanderground" by Sally Miller Gearhart.
11/16/05 7:00 PM: Toledo NOW General Meeting, PCW Bookstore, Cricket West, 3153 W. Central Avenue Toledo, OH 43606 - Public invited and encouraged to attend this premier week screening and discussion of WAL-MART: The High Cost of Low Price focusing on Wal-Mart's Policy of Discrimination. Possible planning for area Wal-Mart protests for the day after Thanksgiving. Refreshments will be provided. Freewill donation of a dollar or two would be appreciated, but not required. WAL-MART: The High Cost of Low Price takes you behind the glitz and into the real lives of workers and their families, business owners and their communities, in an extraordinary journey that will challenge the way you think, feel... and shop.
11/17/05 Noon & 7:00 PM: Two Additional Screenings of WAL-MART: The High Cost of Low Price, More showings of the new Wal-Mart film (above)! These two showings are co-sponsered by Toledo Area Jobs with Justice Coalition and Toledo NOW, and will be shown at the UT Law School Auditorium. Both showings are free.
12/14/05 7:00 PM: Feminist Book Club Meeting
3/15/06 7:00 PM: Anti-War Short Film and Discussion - Learn the effects that war has on women and what you can do to protest! Part of a week-long, city-wide series of anti-war events that features a rally and peace walk on March 18, 2006.
3/22/06 5:30 PM: Celebrating Women's History Month - Author and Feminist Activist, Judith Wellman, book signing and short presentation on her book and experiences "The Road to Seneca Falls"
3/29/06 7:00 PM: Toledo NOW Book Group, "The Good Body" by the author of "The Vagina Monologues", Eve Ensler.
4/7/06 7:00 PM: Take Back the Night, Lourdes College campus - 6832 Convent Blvd, Sylvania. Women unite - take back the night! Join the rally to end violence against women! Women's March, Survivor Speak-out, and Men's Program. The Clothesline Project begins at 6:00 PM.
2005 Wal-Mart Protest
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