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|Domestic Violence Resource Guide for Washington State|
|Welcome to the Domestic Violence Resource Guide for Washington State |
This website is dedicated to women and men who are scared and too afraid to speak out. Domestic violence affects all ethnic, racial, gender, socioeconomic and religious boundaries. Domestic violence doesn't mean only physical abuse. Abuse takes many forms, such as economic, sexual, emotional or psychological abuse. You are not alone...
|List of Shelters and Crisis Lines for Women in the State |
International Resources for Women
List of Help Lines and Sites for Men
|The Family Needs a Good Foundation Give Your Child Good Building Blocks Break That Cycle|
The Washington Court Site
Is where you can download self help forms if you can't afford an attorney and do it yourself. There you can find child support worksheets, parenting plans, protection orders, legal separation papers, divorce forms and much more.
Definition of Violence
1: exertion of physical force so as to injure or abuse (as in effecting illegal entry into a house) b : an instance of violent treatment or procedure,
2: injury by or as if by distortion, infringement, or profanation : OUTRAGE
3: intense, turbulent, or furious and often destructive action or force
4: undue alteration (as of wording or sense in editing a text)
|Everyone Deserves to be Treated with Respect and Dignity|
WROC stands for Welfare Rights Organizing Coalition.
WROC's mission is to effect economic and social justice by educating and empowering low income parents. WROC is made up of individuals and groups whose purpose is to empower people receiving public assistance to make positive changes in the welfare system.
|Love Shouldn't Hurt|
In the beginning, I was young . . . he was handsome. He said I was beautiful, smart, worthy of love . . . made me feel that way. And so we were married, walking joyfully together down a church aisle, our union blessed by God. Then came the angry words . . . the verbal tearing apart. . . . Now I was made to feel ugly, unintelligent, unworthy of any love, God's or man's. Next came the beatings . . . unrelenting violence . . . unceasing pain. I shouldn't stay, but this is my husband . . . promised forever. He says I deserve it . . . maybe I do . . . if I could just be good. I feel so alone . . . doesn't God hear me when I cry out silently as I lie in bed each night? Finally came the release, the realization. It's not me . . . it's him. . . . I am worthy of love, God's and man's. One spring morning, my heart was filled with hope and with fear now only of starting over on my own. And so again I walked . . . down the hallway of our apartment building . . . never again to be silent . . . never again to live with that kind of violence, to suffer that kind of pain.
"A Battered Wife"
Admit that you Hurt
Often it's hard to admit we're hurting. "I'm O.K.," we stoically tell ourselves. "He can't hurt me," we tell others, and "Big girls and boys don't cry."
Admitting you're hurting is one of the first steps toward healing. Running away from pain is the source of all emotional illness, says M. Scott Peck in The Road Less Traveled. To be emotionally healthy, we must embrace the pain of life's hurts.
Part of taking a realistic look at our hurt is looking at the "payoff" we get from holding on to it. Does it allow us to maintain a false "poor me" stance? Is it a protective shield saying, "Don't touch; I'm fragile"? Is it a way of escaping the risks of ever loving again?
A friend once told me, "If I let go of the anger and bitterness that have filled me for so long, I'm afraid there will be nothing left but an empty shell. That anger is all I have to let me know I'm alive."
This World is our Heaven on Earth
In the New Millennium of the Aquarian Age, we are learning to go within to find our savior. We are the power we are looking for. Each one of us is totally linked with the Universe and with Life.
By Maya Angelou
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